Kissing Today?

One of the topics I delved into the past was how people reacting to different things. I've always reasoned that people do things because of conditioning, from conditioning of pain and pleasure. Reading Anthony Robbin's book "Awakening the Giant Within", my theories are given form that other people have read through his book.

However, one of the things that did not make sense to me was the evolution of kissing. Now, the mouth have traditionally been an organ to eat stuff, so how did it evolve into something related to romance or emotions? Granted, a lot of emotion is poured into food. Whenever people are spending quality time with others, it is usually through a meal. Wedding banquets, Business Lunches, Family Dinners, all of these mix our emotional behavior with the surplus of food. And yet, how did we ever get to the idea that putting our mouths together would trigger something as 'romantic' as the kiss?

Now, if you suggest that it was just natural...after all, your waste organs are also sexual organs, then I must admit you have a better idea of what our bodies are for than I. Well, after I read SciAm Mind today, there was an article on why the kiss is so profound in our lives. After all, as Hitch suggested, you get only one night, one kiss and that's all. What makes it so special?

The kiss supposedly evolved from apes. When they are out of food, pressing the lips together may trigger a way to soothe a baby without the presence of food, as well as showing affection and love. Now, this apparently continued towards modern day. Granted, throughout the years, the kiss has evolved as well. Techniques do improve and get passed down. Nowadays, the French kiss (or the Austrian kiss, depending on who you ask) is the norm for passionate kisses. Well, if the kiss is any indication, than France certainly deserves its reputation as the Country of Love.

One of the reasons why kissing is so pleasurable is the abundance of sensory nerves in the area. It is also the area with the thinnest skin. As our mouths can distinguish between pheromones, scientists suggest that it may be the smell, and the taste, of someone that makes us understand genetic compatibility. If something about the kiss feels different, then your body may not like them in bed. Apparently, it is the prelude to everything else. And a kiss that is different may not have anything 'wrong', it just seems incompatible.

Of course, the girls and the guys judging the kiss may have different criteria for judgment. For the guys, it is all about the physical compatibility from the kiss. The genetic makeup and such. For the girls however, it is about the emotional compatibility and whether the guy will stay with her. This is because the girl has a shorter timespan to have kids and this would make the kiss a detector for whether the guy will stay with her or not. So when kissing, you have to try to kiss sincerely (although I have no idea what that means).

And for all you players out there. It is actually much more 'normal' to tilt your head to the right when you are kissing. Apparently kisses between incompatibles tend to tilt to the left, whereas warmer kisses, you tilt your head to the right. However, other scientists have suggested that it is a sign of motor preference, not a matter of emotional preference.
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That's what I learned for today. Tune in next time for more insights into psyche.

Seriously though, I think this stuff is very interesting. Although, I think society views that it's "wrong" to be interested in anything related to the manipulation of people.

I just reread Kareshi Kanojo no Jijou. I think I want to live my life like the last sentence that the main hero and heroine says: "My dream is to die thinking, 'Wow, that was fun. I'm tired." "That's right. Our lives are just starting to get interesting."

Till I see you in my dreams, my Valkyrie.